tapestry

During the past week I have been grateful for the Coaches Training I received at the Hudson Institute of Santa Barbara.  My wish is that anyone who is facing the disappointment that life inevitably delivers, could have the opportunity to learn some of the maps of life transitions as I did.  Someone I love dearly learned he was not selected for a promotion recently which can always be counted on to raise all self doubt.  When this type of thing happens it shakes the foundation that most of us have built for years.  Everything and everywhere we thought we would be crumbles, we feel powerless and often unsure about who we are.  I realized while I was face to face with this beautiful soul there was nothing I could say that would make this time any easier.  Many times people try to make us feel better by reminding us that it must be “God’s will”, “that he won’t take us to something if he won’t take us through it,” that it must be for a reason” As a coach I felt helpless because I remembered the time when my own life took this same turn and there was nothing anyone could say that either made sense or softened what I was feeling.

There is a beauty in these situations however and that comes in the form of the new life that is created as a result of the loss and disappointment. During my own life transition 5 years ago I had no idea that I had to learn to let go, and to be willing to unlearn some of the promises I thought life had in store for me.  I had to recognize that there were likely things I needed to learn in order to have a new life.  And I realize now that moving through that time was going to make be a different woman. 

Today if you are facing something new, (more…)